Last night after New Horizons disbanded, I went to say my final goodbye to my son-in-law, Jake Hailey. He left for the army this morning. I feel so much pride for this guy. He’s smart, caring, brave … the list goes on and on. For now, he’s leaving behind my daughter Meghan and their two girls. In the next 6 months he will be at 4 different bases until he finally arrives at Fort Bragg near the first of the year. Because of this, they decided Meg and the girls should stay here until the end of the next school year. I feel the loss myself, but more importantly, I feel my girls’ pain.
In trying to not make this all about me and my family, my heart just goes out to all of the military families out there. Probably several of you or your families have gone through something similar. My niece and her husband spent 3 of their married years on totally different naval bases. When they finally got stationed together in Guam, a year later he was deployed to Afghanistan. But none of this even compares to the possibility of these soldiers losing their lives. Unfortunately this hits home to so many. My uncle Paul died at 18 years old at Anzio in WWII. Carrie Cunningham’s brother, Ron, died in Viet Nam. I’m sure that there are other members who have gone through this as well.
My point is that when it doesn’t involve us I don’t feel we can truly appreciate the sacrifices these men make. That their families make. I’ve been guilty of this myself. With the hovering possibility of WWIII, I am not crazy about the fact that Jake’s entrance into the service is now. I’m sure thousands of families are in the same boat. So I’m just asking that when we are watching the news about Russia and the Ukraine that we not become desensitized. The Ukraine’s people and their soldiers are suffering. I feel like the US and other countries are walking on eggshells trying not to let WWIII happen but it may at some point happen.
Growing up I was always in Memorial Day parades and Veteran’s Day parades. I did not have a clue how important it was to remember what our men had been through. Now that this is up in my face, I understand. God, please be with the Ukraine’s soldiers and their families. Please be with our boys and their families. And selfishly I must add, please keep Jake safe.
Barbara Tomsello is the sister of Carrie Cunningham (clarinet). She has been in hospice for awhile now, and appears to not have much longer. Carrie would appreciate your prayers for a peaceful passing, and for comfort for the family as they stand by her during her final moments.
First of all, I would just like to thank anyone who took the time out to pray for my sister-in-law, Dianne. I’m a firm believer in prayer … even when the answer is “no”. She passed away 2 days ago, and I’m relieved that her exhaustion and struggling has ended. We are a family of believers so I know she is with Jesus.
Secondly, I’ve been reflecting on so many situations that I’ve seen fellow members in: the member that comes to play his or her instrument while their spouse or partner is sick or even in hospice, the member that finds out a family member died that day but still comes to practice, the member that may be struggling with cancer themselves, or maybe they’re having a physical problem that just makes it hard to play. The list goes on and on. We come to practice for a lot of reasons. We want to play, we want to learn, we want to somehow sound better as an individual and as a group. But often showing up is more than that. It may be just being around a lot of people because you are alone most of the time. It may be escaping temporarily all the things going wrong – sometimes practice is just a piece of normalcy.
I know for myself that I’m so focused on getting things right that I’m not sensitive to others. After all, most of us come to practice and no one is aware of what is going on. So, I’m going to throw out to us as members and teachers (and mostly myself) something to work on. To not get so frustrated with the little things. I’m going to make a concerted effort to give people a break(even myself a break). We don’t have to sound perfect, although it’s always good to try. I mean, that’s technically the goal. But sometimes there are more important things in life.
My sister-in-law, Dianne Kelly, has been hospitalized twice recently. It all began with COVID and pneumonia. She has now been in the hospital for a second time for around 3 weeks. It has seemed like every other day has been better and then the next, worse. Thursday night they finally put her on a ventilator to give her body rest and healing. Improvement is not happening. Her kidneys and liver are starting to shut down. And it goes without saying that her lungs are in bad shape.
I would just appreciate your prayers regarding this situation. This has been extremely stressful for my brother ,Larry, and their kids and grandkids. At the same time they have a lot of faith and realize that this is in God’s hands. Gratefully, he has been allowed to visit her on a regular basis.
I personally appreciate anyone taking the time out to pray for this piece of my family.
Marilyn Katzmark (violin)
Kathryn Weaver (violin) has a relative that is related to Lynette. She is requesting prayers for healing. At only 39 years old Lynnette has been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. She lives in Barberton and has 4 children between the ages of 8 and 12. She is depending on her faith to get her through this and the family would appreciate all of our prayers.
Kathryn Weaver’s (violin) father-in-law, John (Jack) Weaver, has been maintaining with leukemia for some time. Unfortunately he has developed some new symptoms that indicate his health is spiraling downhill fast. He is unable to eat and his kidneys are shutting down. It is his desire to stay home, so even though hospice will be involved , Kathryn and her husband Bob will be at the house providing much of his care. Kathryn is going to try to make it to the Harvest Home dinner tonight but that may be the last time we see her with New Horizons for awhile. Please pray for strength for Kathryn and Bob and any other family members involved. And more importantly, pray for Jack’s comfort and peace.
Theresa Heaton’s (violin) significant other, Tom, has been fighting his second bout of lung cancer for about a year and a half. Yesterday they were told that it had metastasized. Theresa will be unable to practice with us for awhile as she feels she needs to spend her time with him. Please pray for his situation. They will be meeting with a Palliative Care nurse tomorrow to make some decisions.
If you would like to send them a card, their address is: 1331 Village Dr., Akron, OH 44313.
Jim Adkins mentioned at our last rehearsal that he and Lynne had reluctantly placed his mother-in-law, Peggy Hubman, in to Hospice. He and Lynne have cared for her in their home for the last 10 years; she is now 97 years old. Once she became bed bound and the care became 24/7, it became evident that more help was needed.
At the moment, she is sleeping most of the time. Despite her dementia she still has her moments of lucidity. A couple days ago Lynne and one of her sisters were able to visit with their mom for a couple hours and she was fairly alert and oriented. They were able to reminisce and say their good-byes. This in itself was a blessing.
Jim wanted everyone to know that Peggy requested to have a small service with only family present. Flowers and donations are discouraged but our prayers are coveted.
Dear Lord: Be with Peggy as she makes a peaceful transition into Your arms. She has lived a long amazing life and has been blessed with the love of a wonderful family. Wrap Your arms around each member of the family and give them comfort, strength, rest, and peace. And bless them with wonderful memories.
Just wanted to let you all know that Joyce (saxophone is her instrument of choice) spent a couple days in the hospital getting her heart regulated to a normal rhythm. She’s home now and doing well but she won’t be at Sunday’s concert. As an FYI, she happened to mention that heat and dehydration are triggers for people with a-fib, so for those of us with issues, make sure you try to keep as cool as possible at this weekend’s concert, and have a water bottle handy.
If any of you would like to send Joyce a card and let her know you’re thinking of her, her address is: 1165 Falling Brook Circle, Louisville, OH. 44641.
Take care Joyce and come back soon!
Many of you have probably noticed that Chuck has been MIA from the band. What’s been happening? Chuck loves playing his trombone for New Horizons. Well, apparently he has moved to Florida where his daughter is. I know he misses us terribly so it would be great if we could inundate him with cards. His new address is: 4571 Carmel Circle, Pace, FL. 32571. Even better than that, he told Jim that he would love phone calls. His phone number is (850)417-1749.
So whichever way you decide, Chuck would love to hear from you. The good news is that he has found a New Horizons near him. So things are looking up for Chuck!